Violence is for men Most women don't understand men's relationship to violence...

Violence is for men

Most women don’t understand men’s relationship to violence or our duty to protect our family at all costs because it goes beyond their ken.

Men used to completely ignore women’s opinions on these issues. That was deep wisdom; it prevented stupid arguments. Pat her on the head, chuckle, and say, “Sure, dear, I understand how you feel, but a man has to do what a man has to do.” Then go on with what needs to be done. There is no need to discuss men’s business with her.

The wife in this example doesn’t have a point. She has no right to an opinion about how her husband chooses to keep his family safe, as long as his methods are working. Violence is in man’s sphere. He doesn’t get to tell her how to be pregnant or breastfeed, and she doesn’t tell him how to feel about protecting the family.

She is a selfish brat, using this issue as an excuse to complain. If it wasn’t this, she would find something else to complain about. Most people today will complain about anything and everything as an escape or excuse to avoid responsibility.

It’s also important to note that what women are complaining about in the moment is almost never the real issue but rather a proxy argument they are using to indirectly address something else. You should try to uncover the deeper issue and resolve it, rather than argue about something secondary.

The husband shouldn’t argue with his wife about this situation. There is never a point in arguing with your wife. Just tell her it’s none of her business; you have it taken care of, and she must drop it or face consequences. Be strong, firm, and kind. At the same time, he should be open to discussing her real issue (if she can articulate it).

The wife needs to go back to female Lala land, where everything is safe and secure, and leave the world of violence to her husband, who is the only one of them capable of facing it. He needs to fully own that and take the emotional burden of protection from her.