Relationship Texting Tips for Men I've been seeing a lot of public figures...

Relationship Texting Tips for Men

I’ve been seeing a lot of public figures texts exposed, and they are universally broken. Men don’t know how to communicate with women, especially via text.

Below are just a few top texting tips. Please feel free to add your own.

Do not text anything with an emotional context.

Save complex emotional conversations for in-person, video, or phone calls if you are at a distance. Texting loses all context and warmth, leading to misunderstandings and unnecessary friction.

Texting is for 4/5 Ws. When? Where? Who? What? Simple logistics. “When will you be home?” “What should I buy for dinner?” etc.

This includes never texting rules, boundaries, breakups, relationship status changes, ultimatums, etc.

Never justify yourself in text.

We have all known men who write mini-novels justifying why they broke up with a woman or why they asked her to lose weight. Stop it.

State your preferences, boundaries, requirements, orders, or whatever you like, but never justify them. Let what you want be enough of a message.

You should provide a reason for a request, for example: “Wear a nice dress; we are going somewhere fancy” or “I’ll pick you up at 7 p.m. sharp so that we can make our reservations on time,” as that is persuasive and gets cooperation.

No complaining or whining.

You should never complain to a woman or whine about how unfair she or the world are. Do not supplicate her for forgiveness or behavioural changes. Do not winge about your life to her.

It doesn’t matter if you are right; as soon as you complain to her, you are infantilising yourself, and she cannot see you as a man any longer.

If you want something to change, tell her what her role in that is; if she doesn’t listen, it’s her way of rejecting the relationship. Move on with dignity.

Short texts are better texts.

Fight the feminine urge to over communicate. Do not send messages unless you have a tactical or strategic reason for doing so.

Before sending, ask yourself “What is my objective in sending this message?”. You should be able to answer that easily; if not, delete the message.

Dating tip: Remember that the only reason to text is to accelerate the relationship to in-person meetings. Once you are meeting regularly in person, the texting should be minimal.

Use voice messages.

Women live in their bodies and in their emotions. Men tend to live in their heads and their logic.

Written communication is a logical communication tool that works great for men but not as well for women. On the other hand, voice bridges the gap between the cerebral and the embodied.

Send her voice messages. Speak low and slow, and smile while you speak. She will connect more with the sound of your voice than with your text message.