My frame is that I see the purpose of dating is to find a wife to start a...

My frame is that I see the purpose of dating is to find a wife to start a family with. Given that frame the answer depends on the man.

Ask yourself:

• What are you capable of?
• What do you want?

A man who is solid with a naturally high SMV due to how he was raised (SMV is partly effected by your family background) will benefit from dating and marrying early.

If the man has lower SMV he should wait until he is nearer to his SMV peak. Focus on developing yourself.

If the man:

1. was raised right (doesn’t have any childhood trauma to overcome, was taught what he needs to know about women and marriage).

2. Has the support of his extended family and community.

3. Wants his own family.

In the case of high SMV men Id suggest marrying as early as possible to a high SMV young lady with similar background. Have kids straight away and before you’re 50 years old they will all have grown up and left home. Having children when you’re young is physically much easier.

On the other hand if the man:

1. Has childhood trauma that he has not yet fully addressed.

2. Does not have a strong support network (family or friends).

3. Wants to postpone having a family.

He should spend his 20s making the rest of his life easier by “fixing” himself.

A man who’s not ready for dating and marriage should waste his precious 20s. Thats the decade to get things done.

• Work hard, make money, live cheaply, invest.

• Learn a few money making skills.

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• Join a positive social network and get deeply embedded.

• Become physically, mentally and emotionally robust.

• Spend time with mixed groups in non-dating contexts to maintain the ability to socialize with women and prevent becoming blind to their quirks.