Men should not "share power" with their wives

Men should not “share power” with their wives.

It’s not the correct solution to the very real problem that this post brings up. Instead, men must delegate the responsibility and authority to our wives that they need to fulfil their roles as wife and mother of our children.

Both husband and wife need to have separate zones of responsibility that overlap as little as possible, as any mixing of responsibility will cause marital tension and strife. This means we must entrust our wives with the power to make decisions without consulting us on every detail within their zone of responsibility.

Our wives’ opinions, feelings, and concerns should be taken into consideration by us when we make family decisions.

We would never want to ignore, criticize, or drown out our wives’ concerns. This doesn’t mean that we have any obligation to obey her, and believing so would be abdicating our responsibility to make the final decision.

It is our responsibility and duty as husbands and fathers to make the decision that we feel is best for the family, including our wives, even if it makes her uncomfortable.

It is also our responsibility to shoulder the blame if that decision fails to pan out as intended. That’s a big weight to bear so we need to develop broad shoulders (metaphorically and literally).

We want to be as persuasive as possible to get everyone in the family on board with our decisions, but in the end, it’s always our decision.