Men: Do you really want a more traditional marriage?

Men: Do you really want a more traditional marriage?

Many men say they want a more traditional marriage with more traditional gender roles, but they don’t act like it. You have to know what you really want.

Men, ask yourself two quick questions.

1. Have I tried to bring up this topic with my wife?

2. Do I really want a husband-led, more traditional marriage and family life and all the responsibility that that includes for me?

With introspection, most men discover they don’t really want the responsibility of being a traditional husband, just the benefits. As long as they are operating from that frame, it is never going to happen.

You have to be the one to broach the subject, and you need to take the responsibility first.

Persuasiveness comes from confidence in yourself and what you propose combined with decisive action.

You would be surprised at how much leverage you have to persuade your wife on this topic if you are coming from a loving place of authenticity and act with confidence.

Speak with confidence, and then act on what you say. You don’t require her consent to fulfil your responsibilities. You want to be more traditional? Just do it, now!

• Cut the family expenses so that you only need your income.
• Make more money.
• Get all your things done.
• Stop doing women’s work. (Even if she does not like it at first, she will get used to it.)
• Get in shape and start eating right (refuse to eat junk).
• Arrange activities for the two of you. If she says no, go on your own.
• Lead your family’s emotional, mental, and spiritual health by starting deeper, artful conversations with your wife and children.
• Take the lead as a father by teaching your children maturity.
• Learn how to communicate more effectively with your spouse.

You can do all this right now, on your own. Once you are living as a traditional husband, you will be much more persuasive in convincing your wife to adjust to your new paradigm.

If this is something you want, I can teach you how to live as a traditional man, impress upon your wife the value of these changes, and persuade her to cooperate with you in creating an organized, happy, peaceful, and more sexually polarized marriage.