"I dont care" is a emotional defensive mechanism It means "Im afraid of what...

“I dont care” is a emotional defensive mechanism

It means “Im afraid of what other people think about me, it might be painful or maybe I have to change so Im just going to pretend it doesn’t matter”

Whatever you fear & avoid will eventually become your downfall

Face it boldly

What people think about us matters

It changes our options

Allies, enemies, lovers, friends, strangers, family, clients, competitors all who interact with us

It all matters because we do not exist in a vacuum

Humans are social creatures

We NEED social feedback for mental health

“He who isolates himself pursues selfish desires; he rebels against all sound judgment.” Proverbs 18:1

Not caring what anyone thinks leaves us vulnerable to our own eccentricities and self manipulation

“As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17

Trusted, wise companions provide something we can not create on our own, external feedback

They see our flaws, challange our ideas and keep us sharp

No man alone can compete against a man and his tribe

“I dont care what anyone thinks about me”

My son pointed out that not caring what people who love you think is disrespectful and a quick way to destroy all your relationships

� No one loves you? � No one respects you? � No one fears you?

How can you live like that?

“Know the enemy and know yourself in a hundred battles you will never be in peril.” Sun Tzu

Care about what your enemies think of you

� Do they fear you? � Do they hate you? � Do they underestimate you?

You need to know if you wish to use it to your advantage

The correct frame is:

“I care what others think of me and I am ok with the feedback I get”

Are you hated, loved, feared, respected, laughed at?

Accept that other people have feelings about you and you are not in control of those feelings

Take it in as valuable information

When you hear what others think about you let it wash over you like a wave

It rises, crests and recedes

But it does not move you to an emotion

Look at it from outside yourself

Depersonalise the information

When you get social feedback ask:

(social feedback = other people opinions about you)

➡️ “Do I trust this feedback?” ➡️ “What can this information teach me?” ➡️ “Is this how I want to be perceived?” ➡️ “Why do they perceive me this way?” ➡️ “How can I change their perceptions?”

What if you?

Dont have anyone to give you feedback? Dont like what other people think about you? Dont understand how to craft your image? Would like to improve your relationships?

Thats where a coach can help you

DM me if you want to change something