"I can't believe I'm reading this in 2025

“I can’t believe I’m reading this in 2025. It is an insult to all women. We don’t need to be led by anyone and being submissive or agreeing with something out of duty will make you miserable.” - Substack reader.

I have received almost this exact response for years, less so now, but far more frequently back in the early 2000s and late 2010s.

What is always striking to me is that the women who say these things seem to have no issue whatsoever respecting their boss, submitting to his leadership, following instructions, and being held accountable in the workplace. Yet they are shocked, shocked, I tell you, that a husband might deserve the same basic level of respect they routinely give a stranger who cuts their paycheck.

This contradiction isn’t rooted in logic or even emotions. It is the result of ideological poisoning, years of cultural messaging teaching women that men are inherently unworthy of trust or leadership in the home. That submission is degrading. That duty is slavery. That agreement with a man is oppression.

The tragedy is that this mindset cripples women’s ability to experience the peace, clarity, and intimacy that come from ordered, reciprocal relationships lead by masculine men. It breaks marriages, alienates children, and leaves everyone in the household more miserable, not less.

That said, all is not lost. Many women, once they awaken to their own feminine nature, begin to recognize a truth buried beneath the slogans: they desire to be led with strength and love. And when they allow that desire to surface and mature, they often find joy in it. Relief, even.

Because leadership is about responsibility. And deep down, most women want a man they can trust to carry that responsibility.