Diffuse: Let the fire burn out She comes all hot and blustery, full of...

Diffuse: Let the fire burn out

She comes all hot and blustery, full of emotions, ready for a fight

If you push back, it feeds the fire

She will get hotter until she explodes (not in a good way)

While you keep frame, let her burn out

She only has so much fuel to burn

Diffuse: Throw water on the fire

Agree & amplify in a cheeky way “Yes, Im a very bad man!” Smile, use your imagination, but do not be self depreciating

She comes with that heat, why not make some steam?

Grab her ass, pull her in & kiss her until she shuts up

Woman diffused

Disengage: Change the subject

This is an art form, verbal judo

Take something she said & distract her with a side tangent, use your imagination, be creative

Refuse to talk to her about what she is angry about until she cools down (at some point it is good to address the issue)

Disengage: Stop responding

Never respond to provocation via text (no text fights)

Disengage mentally, physically & spiritually from the fight, dont give her fire your energy for fuel

Your attention is the most powerful thing you can offer her, withdraw it until she cools down

Dismiss: This is not the time for a fight

Be clear that you will NOT fight with her

Give her a promised time, soon, to discuss the issues she is concerned about

Let her cool down first

Then honestly address the issues in a cooperative not combative way, as a team

Dismiss: You are the peace keeper

This is YOUR domain and you will not tolerate anyone who disrupts the peace, including her, send her away if she continues

Do not vacate YOUR domain, do not let her push you out

This level of respect is only afforded to men who earn it

Be a high value man and you will have less turmoil

Take care of your business, she will have little or nothing to initiate fights about

If you provide enough value, your attention and provision will be enough to secure her happy cooperation

Value is not just money

The mind of a woman is chaos much of the time and there is little she can do to stop that

The thing she says she is angry about it often not the thing, discern

She is not always logical, thats ok, she’s a woman, they have a right to be illogical

She has a right to her emotions

Keep all this in mind and you will have a peaceful home, a peaceful life and a more secure marriage

If you need help applying this guidance, reach out to me I will help you restore the peace in your home

Men, its is our job to lead our families to unity and peace

Men, our attention is currency

However if we are stingy with our attention our woman will first get hurt, then angry, then find other places to get attention

Be generous with your attention so that withdrawing it has an actual impact