Children need certainty, not confusion

Children need certainty, not confusion.

Are you providing your children with a solid foundation on which to grow?

What framework are you using to provide that foundation?

Below is the framework that I use for my children and clients. Please feel free to use it with your children.

How to use this framework: Answer the questions as specifically and concisely as possible. Then teach it to your children.

Purpose �What is our reason for living? �Disambiguate your answers until they are reduced to actions.

Identity �Who is their father? (no generic name, rank, and serial number; who is he as a man?) �Who is their mother? (same as above) �What is their family identity? �What is their tribal identity? �What is their religious identity? �Who are they? (They are the person who accomplishes their purpose, so draw the connection in the description.)

Mind Map �How much of the world do they understand? �In what ways and from whom are they learning? �What should they know but don’t? �What do they need to know before adulthood?

Moral Compass �What objective process can they use to tell true from false and right from wrong? (Following rules is not a substitute for thinking. They need to know how to determine things when the situation is new and they lack references to make a decision.) �In cases of conflict, whose advice do they trust more? �How do they calibrate their moral compass when it goes off true north?

Answer these questions, and you are well on your way to creating stability for your children.