Your husband wants to help you, but he wants to help you as a man, from his...

Your husband wants to help you, but he wants to help you as a man, from his position and responsibility as a husband and father.

If you want his help, you don’t need to give him orders or micromanage. You simply need to let him know what’s bothering you, and that you’d like his help solving it.

The clearer you are in explaining the problem, the easier it is for him to come up with a solution and act on it in his own way.

The challenge is that clear, direct, outcome-focused speech isn’t how most women speak. Many women hint, nudge, or express emotions indirectly, hoping their husbands will decode the message. But most men don’t think or communicate that way.

Direct communication is a trainable skill.

I can teach you how to express your needs in a way your husband can act on without conflict, without nagging, and without carrying everything on your own shoulders.

Women who learn to clearly ask for outcomes and then trust their husbands to solve the problem his own way end up with stronger marriages and a much lighter burden.