This is silly and manipulative

This is silly and manipulative. It’s equivalent to:

If you advocate for the homeless or drug addicts, you should be taking them in to live with you and feeding them. Why are there no hobos blasted out of their minds sleeping on your couch?

Let’s break down the manipulation:

“If you advocate for young women to choose life instead of abortion,” Oh, you don’t believe in killing babies? I’m going to tie that to something completely separate and impose a debt on you to solve the second problem because you are a decent human being who loves babies.

“should also be advocating for single mothers to be loveable and marriageable.” And here comes the debt she imposes primarily on single men. You have to love and marry them, no matter how nice or horrid they are, and get your friends to do the same.

“Unless you think the woman who would make a better wife and mother is the one who previously killed her baby?” Here comes the shaming. Marry a single mother, or you like bad women and are responsible for more dead babies. Also, here is your manipulative fake choice: marry a woman who either has another mans children or has abortions. Of course we know that the better wife and mother is the one who didn’t make the bad decisions that made her have to choose abortion or single motherhood.

Manipulation is social and emotional aggression. It’s how women fight. They hit you in the gut and hope you are weak enough so they can break your spirit and make you comply.

Here is the truth:

1. Women shouldn’t become single mothers in the first place.
2. Killing babies is not a solution to that mistake.
3. Most of them are not marriage material and likely never will be.

Single motherhood is a symptom of a cluster of personality traits such as immaturity, poor impulse control, emotional dysregulation, poor planning, insecure attachment, and others. This makes them bad mothers and wives. They tend to raise more single mothers and broken boys.

The average effects on the child and society of being raised by a single mother are about the same as other forms of child abuse, in short, terrible.

Being poorly mothered or fathered is a major contributor to the dysfunction of single mothers. It’s treatable in some cases, but very few will ever do the work needed to improve. The ones that do the work and have the humility to change often get remarried and make great wives and mothers.

Even if she learns from her mistakes and improves her personality development, she still has her children. Most men would rather be single than marry a woman who comes with the obligation to care for another man’s children.

Not wanting to marry a single mother is a perfectly normal and healthy choice that is not going to change because anyone shames men for it. It also has nothing to do with abortion; they are two separate issues.