They say you become the average of your 5 closest friends I judge a man more by...

They say you become the average of your 5 closest friends

I judge a man more by the friendships he keeps than by anything he says about himself

Who you spend time with matters, because

A man alone will not develop fully, and

With the wrong company he will develop incorrectly

Men vetting men, this is how you do it

Observe how he chooses to present himself to the world, how he manages his image

How does he:

• Dress?
• Speak?
• Move?
• Act?

Is he physically fit? Does he have a confidant posture?

Is his car clean and well maintained?

Is he consumed by vice, drugs, drink & bad choices in women?

Does he have control of his emotions?

If you subtly get in his face, stand too close, stand on his foot, polk him in the chest, or bust his balls, how does he react?

Does he defend his boundaries, or break?

What is his relationship to authority figures?

A disrespect for true authority is foolish, but so is simping for illegitimate authority

How does he negotiate stressful interactions with police, his boss or other authorities?

Does he keep his cool? Can you trust him?

Is he respected by other men, by his community and by his wife and children?

Does he respect himself? (Does he use self depreciating humor?)

Do younger people look up to him?

Is he consistent and authentic in public and in private?

Or is he living a double life?

Does he tolerate weakness in himself?

Does he tolerate weakness in his friends?

You want a friend that will make you a better man just by being around him

“As iron sharpens iron, so the face of one man sharpens another”

Weak men dulled their brothers

Strong men sharpen them

Is he an honourable man?

Ask him what “honour” is, if he cant answer, you know

Does he cheat on his:

• wife?
• business partners?
• employer?
• games you play together?

Does he keep his word? Is he on time? Does he follow through on threats and promises? Does he give trust?

Does he think ahead?

Is he “the man with the plan” or is he always unprepared?

Is he usually well armed? Carries a flashlight? First aid kit? Knife?

Does he prepare for emergencies and threats?

Is he ready to take advantage of opportunities?

Can he relax and have fun?

How does he respond to new and unusual situations?

Does he volunteer to challenge himself and grow?

Do you have to push him to have new experiences?

Does he trust himself?

Does he extend trust to others?

A man that can not trust is not trustworthy

Finally some theoretical questions to give you a gut check about your potentional friend

Would you want to go mammoth hunting with him?

Would you call him in a life and death emergency?

If you needed someone to raid an enemy village with, would you want him on your team?

Finally, I promised to tell you the difference between a MAN & a MALE

“Man” is a title, & one that must be earned. You become a man by choice and by mastering the masculine virtues and skills.

A “male” is what you end up if you do not develop into a man.

My job is to turn MALES and boys into MEN

Its a learning process, I sharpen them through ACTION and COACHING

Because only MEN can make more MEN