There’s no doubt that divorce courts in America are broken

There’s no doubt that divorce courts in America are broken.

The system is slow, expensive, biased, and often punishes the very men who tried to do the right thing. It absolutely needs serious reform—but let’s be honest: even if divorce courts were fair and kind and handed out warm hugs and happy endings to men, you’d still want to avoid them at all costs.

Divorce court is a battlefield, and by the time you end up there, you’ve already lost the most important war—the war to preserve the relationship, or to never enter the wrong one to begin with.

The real objective isn’t to “win” in court.

The objective is to never step foot in court at all.

That means:

• Choosing the right woman, not just the most attractive or convenient one.

• Leading and managing your marriage like a mature man—guiding with strength, vision, and stability.

• And most importantly, being properly prepared before marriage, something very few young men are today because their parents didn’t raise them with the tools, wisdom, or example they needed.

I have real empathy for men who were underfathered, never taught how to be husbands, and entered marriage unprepared—only to find themselves in a trap they didn’t see coming.

But no matter how broken the system is, divorce court is never going to be where you go to fix your life. If you’re there, you’ve already passed multiple points of failure.

The real answer is upstream: mature preparation, right mate selection, and leading with clarity and commitment. That’s what keeps you—and your family—out of court in the first place.