Should I Cut A Manipulator Out Of My Life?
Should I Cut A Manipulator Out Of My Life?
This is NOT an easy question to answer
There is no simple yes/no binary answer
Most people manipulate (or try to) others at least once in their lifetime
It works so well that few have made real efforts to completely stop manipulating
Manipulators are not necessarily evil
Most people grew up on manipulation, they dont know any other way to get what they want and need
Even people who love you may try to manipulate you, believing that its for your own good
Have patience and pity for them
If we cut out all manipulators from our lives we will separate ourselves from almost everyone, this is not healthy or realistic
Instead become immune to their manipulation
Immunity does not mean you will never face manipulation
But when you do, you will be able to over come it
How to become immune to manipulation:
- Learn the signs of manipulation and how to spot it
- Learn how manipulation hijacks your mind
- Learn how to become mentally and emotionally immune
- Prepare yourself to over come it and push back against manipulation (have a plan)
Once manipulation stops working on you, people in your life are no longer incentivised to use it against you
They are forced to find another way to deal with you
That way is PERSUASION
You can do much to help them by being persuasive yourself, demonstrating the way to them
If you think that someone in your life is manipulating you or you want to become more persuasive DM me
I am a personal & business relationship strategist who teaches individuals and organizations how to identify & resist internal & external manipulation
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