She has the wrong equivalency

She has the wrong equivalency.

“Duty sex” for women is the equivalent of expecting a man to go to work to provide for his family even when he doesn’t want to.

There, I fixed it for you.

She has the wrong equivalency because she has the individualistic, selfish, disloyal view of marriage that is promoted by feminism. It’s disgusting, and she promotes it with every manipulative GSRRM tactic in her arsenal along with every pandering excuse for women to avoid any exercise of agency over their own sexuality.

“I’m not going to do my part unless I feel like it, and it’s your fault if I don’t feel like it” is a toxic attitude for a man or a woman to have in a relationship. It’s also immature.

Imagine a man expecting his wife to get him in the mood to go to work. Or refusing to work because he has a mild headache or is slightly tired. We would rightly mock such a man for his childishness in refusing to care for his wife’s needs.

Yes, a wise woman will inspire her husband to work hard and be a competent provider. However, he doesn’t wait for her before he makes his move. A man must have agency. We show up even when we don’t feel like it.

In a healthy marriage, we adults take care of each other, even when we are not in the mood. Even when I’m not in the mood. Even when she’s not in the mood.

She claims this isn’t a problem she has in her marriage, but she sure has a strong opinion about something that doesn’t affect her.

(It affects me directly because I help many couples with similar issues. And I don’t have opinions about it, I have wisdom about it.)

A bit about female sexual arousal that even most women don’t act like they understand: women are sexual responders.

Baring extreme insecurity driven over sexualization, most women only get aroused following their man’s display of desire. Men, on the other hand, are good to go at the slightest breeze; thats why we are generally the initiators of sex.

Most women only become aroused during the sex act (including foreplay). While men never stop being aroused. We are different, and that’s great, but if she was to wait until she was already aroused to start the process, they would never have sex. This is why wise women always say yes to their husbands.

This should be obvious to anyone who has been in a healthy relationship before. Or anyone who understands human biology. Healthy men have 10 to 20 times the testosterone of women. Having that much T is like being on sex cocaine. It’s intense and wonderful but also a burden at times, as we have to be willing to exercise patience and go at a slower speed that allows our wives to follow our more advanced state of arousal.

On the other hand, (some) women are very sexual. They choose to stoke their own libedo because they like sex, and it has very little to do with their man. A masculine, dominant, alpha man can bring this sexuality out in a receptive woman. However, she is still responding to his leadership and desires.

Conclusion

Ladies, responding with an enthusiastic “yes” to your husband’s advances is always going to be the biggest factor in you getting turned on, even when you’re not in the mood.

The second factor in good married sex that you wives can control is learning to communicate your needs and desires to your husbands. Men are not mind readers.

Women are not mind readers either. Don’t assume or project onto him what you are feeling, wanting or desiring. Ask him.