Most marriage problems are not about the marriage

Most marriage problems are not about the marriage.

The majority of marriage problems are due to personal limitations that existed before the marriage, were then brought into the relationship, and are now surfacing due to them stopping the couple from doing the things they need to do to make their marriage a success.

It’s not your marriage that needs help; it’s you.

That is good news; it means that, in most cases, you have the power to unilaterally improve your marriage. You don’t need to ask your spouse’s permission or get their cooperation to improve the marriage by changing your own behavior.

Why don’t people address their issues before they get married? If they did, they would have more enjoyable relationships.

Often, the personal limitations that strain marriages do not cause enough pain to motivate a change until after the couple is married.

Pain is a far better motivator than pleasure.

If aspects of your marriage are causing you or your spouse pain, now is the time to address the personal limitations that are holding you back from solving the problems.

DM me and tell me what is causing you pain in your marriage.