Men's attitudes toward women can be visualized as a triangle, defined primarily...

Men’s attitudes toward women can be visualized as a triangle, defined primarily by three differences: agency, responsibility/conscientiousness, and their emotional attitude toward others. Within this triangle, all men fall somewhere along a spectrum influenced by their maturity, beliefs, and personal development.

1. Simp/Feminist Men (Low Agency, Low Responsibility, Covert Misogyny)

At one lower corner of the triangle are the Simp/Feminist Men. These men display low agency and low conscientiousness towards women, although their behaviors superficially appear kind or supportive. Historically and etymologically, “niceness” implies foolishness, and in this case, it is a performative form of being pleasant designed to avoid genuine responsibility.

Behaviors & Beliefs: They flatter excessively (simps) or deny differences between men and women, treating women exactly like men (male feminists).

Covert Misogyny: While outwardly appearing supportive, male feminists often harbor covert misogyny, sometimes masking predatory behaviors behind a veneer of performative kindness—employing the biological “sneaky fucker strategy.” Simps use flattery as a passive strategy, idealizing women without genuine respect or understanding.

Result: By ignoring or denying inherent differences between sexes, they create unrealistic expectations, harm relationships, and avoid confronting the responsibilities of mature manhood.

2. Resentful Males (Low Agency, Low Responsibility, Overt Misogyny)

On the opposite lower corner are the Resentful Males. Like the Simp/Feminist men, they lack both responsibility and genuine agency. However, their approach is openly hostile rather than performatively nice.

Behaviors & Beliefs: They openly blame and criticize women for societal or personal problems, expressing overt misogyny, anger, and resentment.

Overt Misogyny: Their resentment often arises from personal failures, genuinely negative experiences with women, or a combination of both. However, rather than constructively addressing these issues, they adopt an attitude of bitterness and blame, refusing to assume responsibility for their own growth and societal roles. Instead, they expect women to either solve societal problems or to suffer the consequences of choices these men perceive as mistakes.

Result: Like Simps/Feminists, they sabotage relationships, isolate themselves socially, and perpetuate harmful cycles of blame and anger without meaningful action.

Commonality Between Simps/Feminists and Resentful Males:

Both groups share fundamental similarities:

Escape from Responsibility: They avoid the mature masculine responsibility of protecting and providing guidance to women, children, and less developed men.

Misogyny: Both groups, though expressing it differently (one covertly, the other overtly), harbor deep-seated misogyny.

Lack of Genuine Relationships: Neither group forms stable, meaningful relationships, as their emotional immaturity and avoidance of true agency repel genuine connection.

3. Patriarchs (High Agency, High Responsibility)

At the apex of the triangle stand Patriarchal Men, who embrace mature masculinity. These men exhibit high levels of responsibility, conscientiousness, and genuine love toward women, children, and society as a whole.

Behaviors & Beliefs: Patriarchs set clear, healthy boundaries—not out of control or power-hunger, but out of protective responsibility and understanding of human nature. They recognize genuine differences between sexes and create environments where these differences are honored rather than denied or exploited.

Noblesse Oblige: Their deep sense of responsibility stems from emotional maturity, cultivated wisdom, and genuine affection for those around them. They feel duty-bound to protect, nurture, and guide others, especially the vulnerable or those still maturing.

Result: Patriarchs foster stable relationships, thriving families, and healthier societies. Their guidance, structure, and emotional care create environments conducive to the genuine flourishing of both men and women.

Example Scenario:

Consider almost any societal issue negatively affecting women today and you will get three distinct responses from men:

Simp/Feminist Response: “Women can make whatever choice they want; criticizing or guiding them is oppressive.”

Resentful Male Response: “Women chose this; let them suffer the consequences. It’s their fault.”

Patriarch Response: “These harmful choices should be limited. It’s our responsibility as mature older men to provide better, healthier alternatives and incentives to protect women from predatory people and their own nature.”

This clearly illustrates the critical differences in how these groups approach responsibility and care.

Conclusion:

By understanding where men fall within this triangle, individuals and communities can better address underlying issues of agency, responsibility, and emotional maturity. Men are called not merely to perform maturity superficially but to embody genuine conscientiousness, loving responsibility, and authentic agency—hallmarks of true patriarchy.

I’m still working out the details of this triangle and would love to hear people’s feedback on how I can improve it. This article is intentionally brief because it represents an idea in progress, and your feedback can help refine and enhance it. I’m especially interested in the thoughts of fellow Patriarchs and Patriarchs under development.

Please feel free to identify yourself as a feminist, simp, or resentful male in the comments if it makes you feel better—I genuinely value and want to hear your perspective as well.