Men don't need to "feel good

Men don’t need to “feel good.”.

Most modern therapy is designed to make the client “feel good” or at least not feel bad. It’s emotional anaesthesia to take away the pain. This model fails men because we don’t care about feeling good; if the rewards are high enough, we will willingly choose great suffering.

Men do want to understand how to better carry out our responsibilities. How to be better men, friends, husbands, fathers, and citizens. How to be stronger, more courageous, more masterful, and achieve honor amongst our peers.

We learn how to do that in the presence of other men, male mentors, and by working together with men we respect on a common mission. Men become better men when they do masculine things.

If you want to become a better man, you must start by finding a masculine peer group and a mentor. What’s left tends to come naturally after that.