It's perfectly normal and ok to start off attracted to superficial things when...

It’s perfectly normal and ok to start off attracted to superficial things when you meet someone.

Superficial things are outward signs of inner work.

Nobody goes “look at that homeless man over there who never bathes and has no teeth, Im going to get to know him better incase he would make a good husband”.

Or “look at that obese woman with blue hair struggling up the stairs, maybe she is the future mother of my children.”