🗣️📣Is she "out of my league"?

�️📣Is she “out of my league”?

“She’s out of my league I dont know how I got her. She’s my better half.”

� What does this really mean???

After so much talk of hypergamy driving womens mating decisions, do women also marry down?

What does it mean if they do marry down?

For the purpose of this discussion there are two types of women.

�Those who marry up. �Those who marry down.

What about marrying an equal?

Impossible, there is no such thing as equal. No two people are equal and its generally easy for any honest person, especially a man, to tell which is the higher status person.

�Why do women marry up?

Generally feminine women want a man thats older, bigger, stronger, smarter, wiser, more skilled, higher income, higher social status, etc. Basically more in every way possible.

This gives her access to his higher levels of productivity and makes following his lead much easier.

She will happily admit that she follows him.

�Why do women marry down?

Generally masculine women marry down because they are less attracted and attractive to dominate men. They have their own resources and are uninterested in following anyones lead.

Marrying down gives her the ability to be the family boss (wear the pants), to avoid giving up control and run things “her way”. It’s driven by selfishness.

Marrying down is easy for her at first as she doesn’t have to compromise. However over time she will grow resentful that he doesn’t step up and lead, no matter that she would fight any attempt he made to do so.

These women (and their “men”) generally claim that their marriage is an equal partnership because deep down both are loath to admit that she settled for a lower value man.

In some cases the man even claims that she is “out of his league”. He thus indicates both his and her low status to the world, embarrassing himself, shaming his wife and undermining his children’s view of their father.

These woman lead marriages lead to resentment, misery and usually divorce.

�Wife resents the husband for not leading and being “less” �Husband resents the wife for dominating him �Children resent the parents for their bad example

Dear men and women, if you are stuck in one of these matriarchal marriages please know that it is fixable.

�Men, you can learn to step up and lead. �Women, you can learn to follow and inspire your husband.

You are not stuck forever, you can discover a path out and into a healthy relationship. Talk to me and I will help you both.