"I'm angry all the time, and I don't like it

“I’m angry all the time, and I don’t like it. I don’t know what’s wrong with me; I just can’t stop.”

My client was dealing with long-term, unrelenting, generalised anger.

“Anger can be a very uncomfortable emotion, especially when it goes on and on without relief. I’ve helped many other people with this issue, and I will help you. But before we start, I want you to consider that there may be nothing wrong with you and that your anger might be completely justified and healthy.”

“OK, I will think about that.”

“Let’s start by disambiguating your emotional statement. We are going to try to figure out what type of anger you are feeling.

Do you feel more? Let down

• Humiliated
• Bitter
• Mad … etc.

You can pick more than one from the list.”

The client indicated that he felt mostly frustrated, which is a sub-emotion of anger.

“Do you feel more infuriated or annoyed?” (subsets of frustration).

“Annoyed.”

“Annoyed about what?”

From there, we discovered that he was annoyed about his inability to accomplish some goals that he had been working on for years. That annoyance had triggered other, related emotions such as sadness, embarrassment, and fear. These secondary emotions were like quicksand, getting him even more stuck in his broken patterns and obscuring a solution. I needed to clarify things for him.

“Can you please make your full emotional statement using the information you now have discovered?” I asked him.

“Sure, I’m angry and frustrated that I have not been able to … ” Replies my client.

“How would you feel if you could do …? Would the anger still be there?”

“No, I dont think it would.”

Now we had something concrete; it was specific information that enabled us to address the root cause of his anger.

He was angry for good reason; his subconscious mind was prompting him to deal with a repeated failure in a way that would settle it once and for all. It motivated him to take action—to reach out to me for help.

As soon as we addressed the root causes of his failure to accomplish his goal and reframed some of his past attempts as learning experiences, his anger faded. He now felt happy, optimistic, hopeful, and determined to apply the solutions that we discussed.

Without his anger and the lessons he learned from it, he would have remained stuck. All I did was guide him through his mind, remove his mental blocks, and facilitate his own consciousness in solving the problem.