If you want to get married, are you dressing, looking, thinking, speaking, and...

If you want to get married, are you dressing, looking, thinking, speaking, and acting like it?

Is the life you are living now putting you in a position to become a husband or wife?

Any incongruence between how you act now and what you want for your future will hold you back from getting it. You see, our brain loves continuity. It strives to make our reality match our image of it.

If you think you are something, if you say that you are a thing, if you act like a thing, if you look like a thing, your brain will try to make you into that thing. Look like a whore or a fucboi? Your brain will subtly turn you into that thing. Look like a husband or wife, and your brain will make it happen.

The people that get married easiest are the ones that look, speak, and act in ways that would make eligible mates proud to show them off to their family and friends.

If she wouldn’t be proud for her parents to meet you, you’re not the one. If she can’t brag to her friends about you, you’re not the one.

And the same thing goes for women.

Today I was finishing up my leg workout with a short run on the treadmill to cool down. In front of me was a very fit and shapely woman in her 20s using the stairmaster.

From my vantage point directly I couldn’t help but watch her shapely bum bounce up and down as she climbed the never ending stairs, the perfect example of the kind of woman men will chase for sex but never consider marrying. Covered in tats, too much makeup, skin-tight and see-through leggings, puffy lips. She was alone and made it very clear she wanted attention that she was not going to get from me.

To the left of me, I see on the floor below a cute, wholesome girl, no makeup, modest gym attire, talking with her boyfriend. I immediately thought to myself that she “looks like she will be someone’s mother one day,” and how they made a well-matched couple, at least visually.

Ladies: If the men you want to marry look at you and they don’t think, “That could be the mother of my children,” you are not going to get a marriage proposal from them.

They say to “dress for the job you want, not the job you have,” and that couldn’t be more true, especially in the dating market. And I would add, “Behave for the job you want.”. Being a husband, wife, father, and mother is a job. Show the right people that you qualify, and you will find what you’re looking for.