I have seen this pattern over and over again: a man who is strong, masculine...

I have seen this pattern over and over again: a man who is strong, masculine, respected by other men. He leads other men well, maybe in business, maybe in brotherhood, maybe in war. He is dominant, competent, and patriarchal in the best sense.

But when he marries, he finds himself lost. Because leading women is different. And he has almost no experience with it. He may have experience sleeping with women, but that is not the same thing.

What often happens is one of two things: he tries to lead his wife (and daughters) like he would lead men, through challenge, blunt orders, and competition. Or he does the opposite and lets her lead, hoping to keep the peace. Neither works. One creates distance. The other breeds chaos.

And here is the hardest part: he is probably the most competent man in his peer group. He cannot ask anyone around him for help, because they look up to him. So he stays stuck. And his daughters grow up insecure because they sense their father has no real hold on the home.

If this sounds familiar, DM me privately. I help men like you. Quietly, respectfully, effectively.