How many dates do I have to go on to find a spouse?

How many dates do I have to go on to find a spouse? (For ladies)

This depends on you and what you are looking for in a husband.

If you know what you are looking for and restrict yourself to dating within that pool, you need to date anywhere from 10 to 50 men. The higher your standards, the fewer men you need to date because your standards do much of the filtering for you.

That takes about a year, no matter if it’s 10 or 50.

A problem that is more common than too many dates is too few or none. This is especially true for more introverted girls. Men are not approaching like they used to, so you need a plan.

If you have a good profile for online dating and you use that system properly, you can get your dates that way, but you will be looking more towards the 50 rather than the 10 dates to find someone. Its quantity over quality.

For every organic date, you need to attend about three social events, and this is key: mingle with the people.

If you don’t like socializing, you are going to have to learn to like it or have me hypotize you into being a social butterfly. These occasions only count if the attendees are comparable to you and lead lives that you would enjoy. So, find your people.

You can’t just stand there and hope people will invite you. You need to go and introduce yourself to people—men, women, couples, old and young. Be a charming, attractive, and positive presence. Light up the room.

I wish we still had charm schools to teach young people these social skills. But since we don’t, here is the key: Everyone you meet should remember you and feel that their day was better because of it. Ideally, they will be talking positively about you on the way home.

Make it easy to approach you. Show that you are open for attention and interaction. Be lovely and you will get men asking you out.