Exactly right. If a woman has had a strong, loving father, she doesn’t get the “

Exactly right. If a woman has had a strong, loving father, she doesn’t get the “ick” from being treated well—because she’s not wired to associate kindness with weakness or manipulation.

When a girl is properly fathered, she’s already received masculine love that’s firm, protective, and generous. She knows what male care feels like—so when a man shows up with good intentions and strength, she recognizes it as healthy and trustworthy, not something to recoil from.

On the other hand, girls who weren’t fathered—or worse, were neglected or manipulated—often interpret affection as weakness, because their only examples of male behavior were either absent, abusive, or simping. They can’t tell the difference between real strength and desperation, so even good men trigger their defenses.

That’s why I teach that the root of most dysfunction in women is under-fathering. Without that early structure, protection, and calibration, they enter adulthood with broken instincts—and they mistake virtue for weakness, and vice for strength.

A fathered woman doesn’t fear kindness. She expects it—from a strong man.

(Note I said kindness, that’s the right word, not niceness.)