3 simple things a woman can do to improve her marriage You can unilaterally...

3 simple things a woman can do to improve her marriage

You can unilaterally improve your marriage.

You don’t need to ask your husband permission to start taking steps today to be a better spouse.

Three simple things:

1. Get fitter.
2. Dress better.
3. No more arguing.

Do this: Get fitter

Why?: Men are visual creatures. We get pleasure from seeing fit, trim, healthy, and beautiful women. Despite his white lies, your husband will love you more if you are fitter, and sex will be better.

It shows respect for your husband and family. A beautiful wife is a status booster for men. It brings him honor and sets a good example for your children.

There are numerous practical benefits. Your husband cares about your health; being fat is never healthy; he knows that, and it hurts him to see you overweight.

Watching someone you love slowly kill themselves with overeating and sloth is painful; do not make your family go through that.

How: Control your food consumption, exercise intensely every day for 30 minutes until you are out of breath and sweating, and walk for an hour.

“But it’s hard to lose weight.” Yes, everything worth doing is hard. Do it anyway.

“My husband loves me just the way I am.” Yes, but he will love you even more if you show him the respect of being fit and healthy.

“I’ve had five kids; this is just how my body is.” Congratulations to all your children, but that’s no excuse for not maintaining a healthy weight and fitness level.

“A focus on appearance is vain and unchristian.” Trying to shame men for their God-given preferences for women who maintain a healthy weight is never going to change that reality.

Do this: Dress better.

Why? The clothing you wear sends a signal about your values. Dressing in feminine, elegant, and beautiful clothing shows that you value being a woman, and it brings honor to your husband and family.

Dressing better improves your attitude and makes you feel better about life and whatever you are doing.

People who dress better get more respect because they show more respect in their choice of clothing.

How: Take time to plan how you will dress and to prepare your options. Aquire practical yet beautiful and feminine clothing so that it’s an easy daily option. Ask a woman with a better style for help.

“I can’t find clothing that I like that is modest and feminine.” Then make them. It’s a great skill to learn.

“I like to be comfortable.” Good. Find clothing that is practical, beautiful, feminine, and comfortable.

Do this: No more arguing.

Why? Because arguing with your husband makes leading you a heavy burden. Men have enough conflict as they navigate the world; they come home looking for peace. Give your man that peace, and he will be grateful.

How: Just refuse to argue. Let your husband know your needs, and then let him decide how to respond. Leave the problem in his hands. Offer to help, let him know you trust him to decide, and then drop it.

“But what if he makes a mistake?” He will make mistakes. That’s normal; he is a human being, and we all make mistakes. Let him correct his mistakes. Let him fail or succeed without your interference, so that he keeps growing as a man.

“But what if he really screws up?” What if he does? Is the worst-case scenario worse than a divorce? Because if you keep arguing, that’s exactly where things will end up.

“But I know better than him about x.” Maybe you do know better; maybe you only think you know better. At any rate, the way that you let him know your needs will give him whatever information you have about the situation.

You women have tremendous power to build up or undermine your marriage. You don’t need to wait for your husband to implement the three things above; get started today.

Fit feminine women know that I’m right.