We often criticize feminism for how deeply it has damaged women, and that...

We often criticize feminism for how deeply it has damaged women, and that critique is valid. But what we overlook is how profoundly most men have been influenced by feminism too.

You see it in the fathers who raise their daughters to be pseudo-men. They push them to be tough, combative, independent in the way men are, trying to equip them to “compete with the boys.” But in doing so, they trade their daughters’ femininity for a lie. These girls are not empowered, they are disoriented, hardened, and stripped of the beauty and security that comes from embracing their design.

Then there is the opposite failure: fathers who offer no guidance or structure at all. They are told, “Let her choose her own path,” so they abdicate their duty. Their daughters grow up unprotected, unguided, and often deeply wounded by the consequences of unchallenged autonomy.

And finally, we see the fathers who are simply absent. Feminism told them they were optional. So they started acting like they were. They detached from their role, convinced that their influence was neither needed nor wanted.

This is not just a women’s problem. It is a men’s problem too. Feminism captured both sexes. It just warped them in different ways. If we want to repair the damage, we have to start with the truth: most men today were shaped by feminism just as much as the women were. And they must unlearn the lies before they can lead again.

Not only must we unlearn the lies, we must recognize that the lies told to men and women were not the same.

Feminism sold women the lie that they must become men to have value. That motherhood is slavery. That dependence on a man is weakness. That softness, beauty, and receptivity are shameful. Many women swallowed this poison and are now suffering the consequences.

But men were fed lies too, different ones, and often more insidious.

Men were told that their authority was abusive. That leadership was oppression. That strength should be softened, masculinity tamed, and fatherhood made optional. They were told to apologize for being men, or worse, to become more like women.

And here is the trap: most men now recognize the lies women were told. But they still believe the lies they were told. They critique feminism as if they are immune to it, when in fact, it still defines their instincts, their guilt, and their weakness.

You cannot lead your daughters, your wives, or your sons until you purge your own mind of the lies designed to castrate you.

The first step is realizing that you were lied to, too.

This is a good reminder of how easy it is, even for strong men, to fall into the feminist trap with their daughters. Some wanted a son. Some have no real experience leading women. You would be surprised how many men who are excellent at leading other men have no idea how to lead a woman, until they have daughters. And by then, the cost of getting it wrong can be very high.