Masculine vs. Feminine Qualities. Everyone likes to argue about what is masculin

Masculine vs. Feminine Qualities.

Everyone likes to argue about what is masculine and feminine, but ask them to disambiguate the terms, and they can’t. This is because they only have a vague feeling of what masculine and feminine mean based on their preexisting biases.

�🏻Things they want a man to do are masculine. �🏻Things they don’t want a woman to do are not feminine.

It’s all justification for their preferences and histories.

How do we decide what is masculine and feminine?

Any definition must be:

1. consistent over time and between cultures.

2. based on measurable virtues.

3. set a minimum standard.

Male maturity is masculinity.

Male maturity is masculinity. It is defined by what makes a man useful to other mature men and capable of holding his own in the male hierarchy. Being in a male hierarchy is what women value in mature, masculine men.

The required virtues to be a useful man are:

�🏻Strength: physical, mental, moral, and emotional

�🏻Courage: physical, mental, moral, and emotional

�🏻Mastery: high levels of competency in some valuable skills

�🏻Honor (a reputation that he can be trusted to be strong, courageous, and masterful)

Female maturity is femininity.

Female maturity is femininity. It is defined by the virtues that make women valuable to their (future) husbands.

The required virtues to be a useful woman are:

�🏻Receptivity: the ability to receive and hold value

�🏻Transmutation: the ability to transform received value into something even more valuable.

Female maturity looks different than male maturity, just as mothering looks different than fathering. In the following tweets, I will link to past posts explaining more.

Can you show other virtues?

What about when a man or woman demonstrates virtues that are normally associated with the opposite sex? Does that impinge on their masculinity or femininity?

No, it does not; this time I will explain.

No virtues are exclusive to any sex. A mature, masculine man can also display female virtues without diminishing his masculinity, and vice versa. Adding a virtue does not decrease a person’s value.

For example, an artist receives patronage and transforms it into things of beauty. Many times I’ve heard them describe this process as like birthing a creation. If the artist is a man, mastering these virtues does not emasculate him.

Every day, I help men and women transform into better versions of themselves. It’s almost like magic to those who don’t know what I’m doing, but I see it as the ultimate expression of fathering the underfathered, not emasculating at all.

In traditional European Norse religions, Odin seeks the wisdom (magic) of women in understanding the future to add to his own masculine traits, making him even more powerful. Was this emasculating for Odin? No.

When Jesus Christ saw the sadness in the faces of his friends over the death of Lazarus, he wept for them. The Bible says that he received God’s spirit and transformed Lazarus from a dead man into a living one. Was this emasculating for Jesus? No.

We do not expect a woman to display strength, courage, mastery, or honor; however, when she does this as an adjunct to her well-developed feminine virtues, we instinctively value her even more.

This is because strength, courage, mastery, and honor increase her ability to receive and transform. They make her even more feminine.

What behavior emasculates men and masculinizes women?

It is the avoidance of responsibility (avoidance of maturity) and the display of vice, or the pursuit of anything that interferes with the development or display of their core virtues.

Remember, both masculinity and femininity are about maturity, which is the result of taking on and fulfilling responsibility.

Additionally, for men, using excuses, whining, using GSRRM on the ingroup, having poor emotional regulation, being immoderate in habits, being slothful, lazy, wasteful, avoidant, etc. will emasculate him.

For women, excessive independence, competitiveness, disagreeableness with the ingroup, snarkiness with other women, disrespect of gender roles, poor personal care, and promiscuity masculinizes them.

Be sure to read the linked posts below and ask your questions. I want to make sure I get back to as many of you as possible but I will focus on the best questions first.

What is female maturity?

What is male maturity?