"I’m so done with coaching

“I’m so done with coaching. So done with self-improvement, with habit stacking, morning routines, supplements, gratitude journals, optimization culture. I’m tired of feeling like I need to fix myself just to be acceptable. What if, just maybe, I’m fine the way I am?”

This kind of reaction usually comes from people who misunderstood what coaching is for in the first place.

They were in pain. They wanted the pain to stop. So they dipped a toe into “self-improvement,” expecting quick relief. When the pain subsided just enough, they stopped. They didn’t fix the underlying problems, so the pain came back. And then they blamed the process.

Let me be blunt: If coaching did not work for you, either the coaching failed (bad coach), or you did.

Most people fail because they never set clear objectives. Coaching only works when it’s grounded in an operational, real-world outcome: “I’m not getting the result I want in life. Something about how I think, act, or choose isn’t working. I want a different outcome. Help me become the kind of person who can get it.”

That is what effective coaching is for.

Not for endless journaling. Not for buying products. Not for paying someone to hold your hand while you stay the same. And definitely not for validating the lie that “you’re fine just as you are.”

If you were fine, you wouldn’t be angry. You wouldn’t be miserable. You wouldn’t resent people who are getting results.

Good coaching ends. It solves a problem. It gives you your power back. And then you go on. Maybe you get coaching for a different problem, but that original issue should be sorted.

And the only people who get bitter about that… are the ones who never finished the work.