If you’ve been following me for a while, you probably already know exactly what...

If you’ve been following me for a while, you probably already know exactly what this guy is doing wrong. All of it boils down to one thing: He’s not showing women the best version of himself.

Let’s start with the photos. They’re not doing him any favors. He is not smiling and has a sad looking face. Big turnoff. Women want joyful, lively men not sad sacks. (Maybe he is not sad but then he should pick different photos to show that).

In the close-up, he looks puffy, almost swollen. That could be actual body fat, puffiness, or it could be a bad lens choice. Some lenses distort the face and make you look heavier than you are. But either way, these are the only two photos he’s showing. Maybe he has more, maybe not. What we see is a guy doing things most women don’t want to join in on.

That’s a red flag.

A dating profile isn’t a resume, it’s an invitation. You have to show that you’re living the kind of life a woman would want to join. That means pictures with friends. Activities that are fun, expressive, and socially magnetic. Women feel safer when they see you already have a social life. They feel more curious when they see other women like being around you. So the first step? Get professional photos.

Now, on to his description. He says he’s in good shape: 32-inch waist, runs daily, lifts weights five times a week, weighs his food. I have big doubts. And here’s the problem, if that is true and he still looks like that? Then his genetics are terrible. And that’s not something you want to advertise. For most men who aren’t severely obese to begin with, it’s entirely possible to get lean and muscular in two years. But only if you’re training correctly and eating in a way that supports recovery. Running every day while lifting five times a week is usually overtraining. Unless those workouts are barely above stretching, you’re burning yourself out. And that’s what he looks like: burned out. Bloated. Swimming in cortisol.

He has a classic “moon face”, round, swollen, no cheek definition. That’s a textbook sign of high cortisol. Women pick up on this instinctively. A man who looks like he’s drowning in stress doesn’t trigger attraction. It triggers concern, or avoidance. The good news? He can fix that fast. Drop the overtraining. Fix the sleep. Eat for strength. Learn to manage stress properly. Within a few weeks, that puffiness can melt off his face.

Finally, he’s relying on Tinder as his main way of meeting women. That’s backwards. Online dating should be secondary, at best. The real priority is building a strong social life. Men and women. Real community. A life that feels full and meaningful, not just functional. Because here’s the truth: women don’t just marry a man. They marry into his life. If your world is boring, isolated, or barren, you become boring by association.

None of this means Hayden is a bad man. But it does mean parts of his life aren’t in order yet. And those are the parts women feel before they ever know your name. And then they swipe left.

The good news? None of it is permanent. None of it is personal. These are just lifestyle problems. Easy to fix, with intention, with clarity, and with a little professional help. Starting with some better photos.

Oh, and his idea of going to Thailand? Terrible plan. He’s going to get eaten alive by some Taiwanese 3 with sharp instincts and a soft smile. Women like that can spot men like him a mile away. And they know exactly how to take advantage of them. There’s this myth that Asian women are more submissive than Western women. But the truth is, they’re just better at appearing feminine. Softer voice. Smoother mannerisms. But underneath? They’re tiger moms. And tiger wives.