Future dead bedrooms are made in the early stages of dating

Future dead bedrooms are made in the early stages of dating.

Here is how to have a life long high sexual energy marriage:

“Why can’t the woman ask the man out?”

(In this post, approach means to initiate a relationship, ask out, etc.)

I occasionally get this question, almost always from men who wish a woman would ask them out. They want dating to be easier for them with a lower perceived risk.

Getting obvious sexual attention and pursuit from a woman is flattering to a man’s ego. But it’s not a solid basis for a marriage. Why?

Because men and women are different and need different things from each other, this is because of our sexual polarity and our biological, psychological, and social differences.

Low polarity means low sexual energy. High polarity means high sexual energy.

With healthy, mature, and fully developed people, the man initiating and approaching is the first test of his masculinity. The way she responds shows her femininity.

�Masculinity = male maturity �Femininity = female maturity

The first stages of dating are the way they are in cultures all over the world, for a very good reason. We need to test for maturity and sexual polarity. Marriage is for adult men and women.

�A mature man will approach a woman he likes. �A mature woman will handle that approach like a lady.

“But I know someone who did it differently.”

I’m sure you do. Lots of couples have unconventional starts to their relationships. The woman leads, the man follows, etc. These couples have reversed polarity; the man plays the woman’s role, and vice versa.

In other couples, the man is an adult child, and the woman starts the relationship because he is too immature to figure it out, and she desperately needs a socially acceptable sperm donor before her eggs get old.

Both of these situations are not optimal. They have low sexual polarity, which leads to no or low sexual energy in the relationship. Dead bedroom.

Either the man approaches and leads the relationship, or you get a dead bedroom after marriage.