Everyone shittests. Both men and women. - Have you ever had a standard or bounda

Everyone shittests. Both men and women.

• Have you ever had a standard or boundary and done something to find out if another person would try to break it?
• Have you ever teased your friends? (Men do this all the time.)
• Have you ever asked someone for a favor to see how they would react?

Congratulations, you did a shit test.

I will refer to it as social testing from now on.

Testing is a normal part of life and most social interactions. I tested my wife before marriage. I test potential friends to build trust. I test potential clients for compatibility. I test my children all the time to help them grow.

I test people because my presence is valuable and must not be misused and because I love them and want to get to know them better.

Here is an example: When I meet a new potential friend, I will lend them a small amount of money. If they don’t pay me back, never mention it, etc. I know they are not conscientious and may lack honor. That’s a test.

Many men and women dislike testing for three reasons:

1. It exposes their flaws, and they lack the ego strength to look at themselves honestly. People who easily pass the tests they face find them amusing.
2. The testing is done in a clumsy, hurtful manner.
3. They confuse someone being rude, manipulative, or rejecting them as testing. Sometimes a no is just a no and a jerk is just a jerk.

Some people get tested a lot more than others. The weaker your presence, the more you need to improve. The greater your need for testing, the more rigorous the tests will be. This is how you grow up in life.

People will treat you the exactly way you signal for them to treat you:

Why do women social test?

Because they have to. Most women have terrible judgment in men. Modern women are not educated on how to pick good husbands or be wives and mothers. Historically, women relied on their parents and community to thoroughly vet men before dating them. Now they have to make do with what they have, which is looking for social clues and testing.

Women are also easily manipulated by social testing fads that prey on their agreeableness and neuroticism. Women’s mags have titles like “If your boyfriend doesn’t respond this way, he is going to cheat.”

Lately, women are not very analytical. They usually go with their gut. Tests make them feel like they have some genuine reasons for their often random decisions. This is especially true for more neurotic women.

Conclusion

Here’s what you do. Control your neuroticism about testing. Build a personality and life you can be proud of. Develop a sufficiently robust ego that some stranger not liking you doesn’t affect your view of yourself.

There is an art and skill to social testing. In 2024 most people are social retards. If you are even slightly interesting and develop a crumb of social skills, charisma, charm, aura, or whatever it’s called today, you will find that you dominate your social interactions, and people are magnetically drawn to you. Once that happens, you can learn to test, tease, joke, and have fun with social interactions.

Go out and enjoy social testing; it can be fun.