Dating and courtship is a social dance Men and women each have their role to...

Dating and courtship is a social dance

Men and women each have their role to play in it

You can “cheat” a bit but thats going to have a cost

The problem is that we live in the most under socialised culture in history

Most single men and women dont even know how to “dance”

Children used to spend their free time outside with other boys and girls playing house and learning how to interact

Fake safety panics & mass parental psychosis caused many children to be banned from playing outside without adult supervision

No more social skills development

Men dont approach when they lack self confidence that comes from experience with women

Growing up I spent time around females of all ages, friends and family, so I have no fear interacting with them

This was normal up until the 2000s

Now? No more experience, no more confidence

Women learned as girls how to set boundaries, be receptive and work with boys while playing games together as children

Play is the #1 learning method for children

PLAY IS SOCIAL

Modern women lack that set of social skills they should have developed before puberty

Now we have men and women with poor social skills

They are still biologically driven to find each other, but they are fearful and lacking in confidence

So they sit back and wait for it to happen

People with the worst social skills end up the most picky about their interactions

When men & women lack self confidence & social skills it messes with their dating “radar”

They miss opportunities, they cant believe the opportunity exists

They dont trust their own attractiveness & decision making skills

So they cant trust dating someone thats not perfect

Impossible standards are not just a result of dating apps, social media and propagandas manipulation

Its also a method of procrastination

Relationships require us to work on ourselves, uncovering our own deficiencies

Thats a painful process they are avoiding with “standards”

Solutions for men: ♂

Get a coach. Of course Im biased on this since I have seen the success that a coach can create

Get practice. Easier said than done

Get feedback: You need to know if your social skills are lacking

Get all three below:

“But Noah its not like that in the modern dating market…”

Stop dating like everyone else

Men control access to relationships

You get to initiate

You CAN become the receiver, but the man who pursues what we wants will always get something better than the man who is passive

Solutions for women: ♀

Be more open and receptive to dates

Increase your response rate to men

Say yes to more conversations and more dates

Even with men you dont immediately get the tingles for

Get a dating coach to help you develop your ability to be receptive

“But Noah its not like that in the modern dating market…”

I have noticed that my advice for women to be more receptive is obvious to women in relationships and all the push back comes from single women.🤔

You owe it to yourselves to at least try what worked for other ladies

The good news is that this is a fixable situation

You cant fix the dating market, but you CAN fix how YOU interact with single, eligible potentional partners

Focus on what is within your power, what YOU can do to create and take advantage of opportunity for yourself