Charm is Greater Than Beauty

Charm is Greater Than Beauty.

If you think good looks are a cheat code, wait until you find out about the power of charm.

When you master charm, it’s like a magic spell.

My wife often says to me, “Why do people just do what you say?” and I answer, “Because I ask politely.”.

Charm and good manners should accompany each other; however, too much adherence to social rules is boring, and whatever you do, don’t be boring.

Boring is anti-charming.

Charm requires breaking the rules of etiquette in subtle and not-so-subtle ways that make you even more attractive to whoever you are interacting with.

A charming person can approach strangers, touch people, laugh out loud, pull people into them, and even ask challenging questions, all without breaking the spell.

When highly skilled in charm, you can even get your counterpart to break some rules with you, binding both in that shared transgression.

One of my great-grandmother’s lessons was how to talk with anyone about anything they found interesting and seemed knowledgeable about.

It is really a series of deep, probing questions that get the other person to share while I say nothing much at all, except to rephrase what they said back to them.

How can I interrogate someone for an hour or two and have them come out of the experience deeply connected to me, to the point where they fondly recall our encounter years later?

Well, people love to talk about what they like, and even if I don’t know much about the subject, I can still ask meaningful questions.

In the end, they are sure that I knew far more than I did, but really, they supplied all the facts, and I supplied the charm.

Every once in a while, I meet a particular charming woman. One who has been trained in the art of conversation and knows exactly how to push my buttons. The conversation is always electric as we charm each other.

A charming woman brings out the best in men; she knows exactly how to unleash any part of you she wants, whether that be the gentleman or the beast. That is real power.

Being a married man, I make sure to avoid having too many conversations with the same charming woman. The power of charm should not be underestimated, even by the initiated.

People will do what you ask if you know how to ask them.

A man or woman who knows how to speak and listen in such a way that other people feel better, inspired, impressed, and motivated is rare and precious. Especially in our socially illiterate world.

And yet, you too can learn this skill, and I will teach you as soon as you reach out to me.