Are you yearning for a happier, more fulfilling family life?

Are you a successful man or woman seeking to create stronger, healthier relationships with your spouse and children?

Are you trying to break the intergenerational curse of divorce?

If so, allow me to share the transformative story of a client and their family, driven to the brink of disaster but ultimately led back to peace and joy. Please note that the names and some details have been changed to protect their privacy.

His story starts here:

My marriage was on the rocks, but I had no idea how bad it was.

The look of disappointment in my wife's eyes when I failed to handle the situation in a mature way crushed me. I felt so small.

I knew something was wrong. Since having our last child earlier in the year, our bedroom has been dead; we rarely speak or do anything together. The old spark was gone. There was no eagerness to be together.

We were both exhausted and fought all the time about nothing.

Nothing specifically was wrong; there was nothing I could nail down as a cause or major issue, yet we didn't have peace, even in the quiet times we grated on each other. This isn't what either of us got married for.

I could feel a gnawing in the pit of my stomach. The word divorce started to appear on the fringes of my mind. Was I doomed to repeat my family's curse?

My father is a soft, docile man. He is the type of father that you see in a sitcom who is always the butt of jokes. My mother was a domineering woman who ran the house on shame and guilt trips. This kind of environment makes children grow up dysfunctional.

I had no model for being a man, husband, or father. No one to imitate or learn from.

As soon as I moved out for college, my parents got divorced. Most of my uncles, aunts, and cousins, and even my older brother, were also divorced. I used to think I was the one who made it work—the smart one in the family who overcame his background to build a successful marriage with several children. Now I was doubting myself.

Was I dysfunctional? How come I couldn't fix this? What was wrong with me?

As an engineer, I have always earned good money and been successful at whatever project I set my mind to, but this was different. I couldn't outthink the problem, no matter how hard I tried. It was frustrating, and I became hopeless, alternating between being obsessed with fixing my marriage and distracting myself with other things.

Naturally, I couldn't ask my parents or brother for advice. My friends—well, I hadn't really had any since I got married; I had been neglecting my friendships. Many of my old friends were facing the same problems I was.

My church didn't know how to help us. Most of the couples there were no better off than we were. The ones with happy marriages could not explain how they made it work, and the pastor just advised us to "Read your Bible and pray," which was of no help in solving our practical marital problems. We needed simple instructions on what to do and how to do it—the ABCs of action! No one had a realistic solution.

I felt alone and hopeless.

And then it got worse; I lost my work-from-home job, and I didn't take it well. Despite my frustration with my marriage, at least my career and job had provided some stability. A place where I could find peace and success.

I started drinking and playing video games all day instead of looking for work. I wasn't drunk, but I also wasn't thinking clearly. Instead, I was wallowing in self-pity, feeling sorry for myself.

Sometimes I played games with my children, but mostly I was short-tempered with them. I didn't want to take my frustration out on my kids, but I was losing control of my emotions.

The daily look of disappointment in my wife's eyes when I failed to handle the loss of my job in a mature way crushed me. I felt so small.

Sex was no longer a part of our married life at that point, and I can't even blame my wife; no woman finds a man-child attractive. And yet, I started to get angry at her, thinking, "How could she pull away from me when I needed her the most?" It was heartbreaking.

We tried family therapy with a nice woman. She connected well with my wife and helped her express some of her needs, but she didn't understand me at all. After each session, I felt even worse hearing about how I wasn't meeting her needs for emotional intimacy and security. How could I meet anyone's needs if I couldn't even meet my own?

And my needs mattered as well! I was almost out of energy to keep this all going. I was about to have a breakdown.

Then I saw a Tweet by Coach Noah Revoy.

"There is nothing wrong with you.

You're not crazy or broken.

All you need to do is learn a few new life skills, manage your emotions better, and change your thought patterns into ones that get you what you need."

I'M NOT BROKEN! There is hope for me and my family.

So I reached out to him and told him my story, and you know what I realized?

I had not been living like a mature man.

What I had been perceiving as marriage problems was really a lack of masculine maturity on my part and had little to do with my wife, my family history, or even my job loss.

Noah asked me a painful question: "When did you become a man?" And honestly, I couldn't answer him because I'm not sure I ever did.

I'm not even sure my father ever became a mature man. In fact, I know he didn't.

Somehow, I already knew all this. I had been searching the internet for masculine podcasts, reading books, visiting red pill forums, etc. I knew I was lacking, but I struggled to implement any of the vague advice I was given.

They all told me what to do, but none showed me how to do it.

No amount of YouTube videos and self-help books could teach me how to fix my marriage. I needed one-on-one help from an expert.

Even better, I didn't need to ask my wife for permission or even have her do anything. Making my marriage better was 100% within my power. That gave me hope and energy that I had been lacking for months.

Coach Noah explained to me that:

"Millions of men and women were not raised to be mature husbands, wives, fathers, and mothers. Their parents didn't set a good example, nor did they teach them the skill sets required for maturity.

Because of this, many highly successful people struggle to find happiness, peace, and joy in their marriages. And they have nowhere to go for help!

They can't ask their unhappy, divorced parents how to make a marriage work.

Their friends are lost and confused just as badly as they are.

Society gives them terrible, conflicting, and sabotaging relationship advice.

The result is a marriage on the brink of divorce. Or they are stuck in a zombie marriage; it's neither dead nor alive. It’s just miserable."

He was right. My wife and I didn't know how to make a marriage work. We had a zombie marriage. Sure, we weren't yet divorced, but no one was happy. Our relationship was barely alive, a living hell, and our kids were suffering greatly because of it.

Then Coach Noah dropped the hammer. He asked me “What happens if you don't do something different than what you've been doing? Something that fixes your marriage?”

“Unless we get unblocked soon we are going to get divorced.” I finally had to face the reality of it and it's an ugly thought. Divorce is painful in every way.

Coach Noah pointed out that the “average upfront cost of a divorce in America is $20,000. The total price can go up to $100,000 with lawyer fees and court costs, not to mention the loss of half your property and income. Settlements can take years out of your life.

But the financial costs are only the beginning. Your children will suffer for the rest of their lives. Studies have shown that daughters of divorced parents have a 60 percent higher divorce rate in marriages than children of non-divorced parents, while sons have a 35 percent higher rate. That's the generational curse mentioned earlier.

Divorce can increase a man's risk of depression by up to 10 times, not to mention that depression related to a divorce leads many men to suicide. About 50% of women who divorce end up depressed and require medical treatment for their symptoms.

Even if you avoid divorce, you could end up in a zombie marriage. Together for the children, but miserable. That's a terrible way to live.”

That's when I decided to get the help that my family needed, no matter what.

We have finally escaped our family's generational curse.

Divorce is off the table.

My marriage is not perfect. I still have to master some of the skills and thinking patterns that Coach Noah taught me, and my wife is slowly adapting to the ways that I have changed. She realizes that this is a permanent change; I'm not going back, and that gives her some comfort as she makes changes of her own. She has even expressed interest in going through the same transformational process as I did.

I now know how to meet my needs, how to work with my personality, how to not expect things from my wife that she can't provide, and most importantly, how to live as the mature man my family needs and that I realize I wanted to be all along.

Noah taught me to use my emotions as tools to accomplish my mission as a man, husband, and father. Together, we removed my unhealthy programming and replaced it with new ways of doing things. I am no longer blocked by past trauma or old habits.

The past and my childhood have no hold on me anymore, and they don't dictate my future.

I learned how to communicate with my wife in a way that meets both our needs for intimacy and love. I no longer avoid conflict; instead, I embrace it as a chance to discover new ways to strengthen our marriage. We are having better sex again, and more often than ever.

Finally, my marriage is a source of joy, peace, and blessing to me, my wife, and our children.

Best of all, I now know exactly when I became a man.

Thanks to Coach Noah, I now understand that maturity is when you take full responsibility for yourself and all the things you own. At the end of our first round of 12 sessions, he had me swear an oath to myself and make a personal sacrifice to honor my oath. I swore to behave as a man and to take responsibility for myself and my family. It was then that I took full ownership of my life and my family. This is when I became a man.

I wish I had done all this personal growth before marriage. It would have saved me so much heartache. It makes me very happy to know that I can now teach these lessons to my children so that when they go into dating and marriage, they are fully equipped mentally and emotionally. This is how we make the world a better place: by raising our children better than we were raised.

At my new job, they noticed the change in me instantly as I began to behave as a mature adult man. They have seen my performance improve and know I can now be relied on to an even greater extent than before; I handle confrontation productively, even if it still makes me a bit uncomfortable. They are preparing me for a team leadership position.

The tension in my marriage had been preventing me from finding friends. It was not pleasant to be around us when we were fighting. Now that we go out to parks and restaurants more, I find that, as a united team, my wife and I are attracting other like-minded couples with children and successful marriages. Other men are even looking to me for advice about their relationships or parenting.

With Noah's coaching, I've gone from a friendless man-child in a sexless zombie marriage to a mature Patriarch with a happy wife and lots of satisfying sex, surrounded by a community of like-minded people.